I just watched The IT Crowd and there's this episode where everyone thinks that Jen's dead and leaves flowers and cards with »Our princess of hearts« written on it in front of her office … and, you know, I thought »actually we should do things like this occasionally when people are not dead«. Some months ago someone I know occasionally wrote messages to me via IM in the middle of the night writing about what he likes about me. Yes, it was kind of weird, but sometimes you just need people telling you how awesome you are without any reason. Besides it was only weird (and it was weird in a good way somehow) because it's so unusual, you even have to wonder when people are nice and you maybe even accuse them of being malicious. People are astonished at compliments from strangers and instead of just saying »thank you« they're like »have we met?«. Though that's not what I actually wanted to say. Wouldn't it be nice if people »acted as if you died« (I only mean the flowers and the cards and stuff) while you can still experience and be happy about it? Of course it would. That's what Valentine's Day's for, by the way. For poems, gifts and other »I love you because you're awesome«-things because if there wasn't such a day most people would never say to others that they like them. Also, love letters! They are quite rare, aren't they. I'm too young to remember what it was like, let's say, twenty years ago, but nowadays you tell someone that you fell in love with him/her by sending a short e-mail (if the person's lucky) or SMS. Yes, the »essence« of the message, the message itself is the same, but there is a difference between a personal, handwritten letter or a face-to-face conversation and a quick message on someone's myspace site that probably took you five seconds to write … but I digress! Think of your female friends whining about how fat and stupid they are. If you now tell them they're smart and beautiful they won't believe you. Well, if you tell them spontanously and are not lucky they they'll still tell you that they don't, but nonetheless they'll be happy about the compliment. You never get used to compliments. You also never get used to people who yell at you for no reason or to these »I hate how you …« people, do you. Everyone encounters them and there is also this pressure to be perfect from the media and society and you just need something that kind of equates that.
So basically what I'm saying is that I want more spontanous compliments, kind words, honest letters, presents et cetera in our society. You know, small favours that make your day.
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